The Things She Loves to Hear

Whether it's an alluring, gorgeous girl walks along the narrow lane that passes right in front of your door or the tempting executive
who has recently joined your office, you are impatiently wanting to
date before someone stealthily snatches her up into a committed relationship; there is a genuine means of dating a young, exquisite lady who has stolen your heart. You might have met a Diva at your best friend's party who was generously giving glances and a fleeting look that gives you an affirmative gesture to move ahead. However, you don’t have the nerve to ask her on a date; the first date you always yearned for, still never happened.

Her dark eye lashes you liked most, her contour just about her loins
fore tells her fecundity and stature and other angelic features convene all your prospects of the girl you need in your life.  The one you hid in your dreams ever since you became a man.  Your lips dry up, your throat get much drier when she approaches you, and you have no words to express. Yes, you do need some vital homework and a dry run, privately before you ask the dream girl for the first date. To get rid of nervousness, a usual adversary every man is born with, besides the placenta connecting him to his mother, have a drink for the first time.  That won’t make a hole in your pocket and a light drink can tell you if she would like to pursue this any further. Before inviting her for a dinner and a movie, you always sought to take her to the best places in your city which can cost you, and create social stress ; at least for her as she has yet to make up her mind to drop anchor on you.

Any hasty move can cost you a date and further date that you have
premeditated, ever since the golden hair lines started appearing on your face. In case you choose to take her home after your date, the proximity should be calculated in advance to avoid embarrassment for her and for you afterward. If you sit the way business associates sit in the bar, opposite to each other, the mere objective of dating has lost its zest as both of you struggle to warm up for the next date. Sit in the same row close to each other, so you can hold her hand.  Both of you will want a second date.

She may love to hear you talk about your achievements and trumpet on
future projects with great ambitions that are earnestly waiting to blossom in the coming spring. She will adore it and weave her dreams on it in such a way that no loom in the world can compete with her imaginary silk apron she had woven and the butterflies and swan flew up and landed on that apron of her colorful Eden in her world.
A pat on her back and a compliment on her strength don’t go amiss;
if it is on a date, the prospect of her bonding with you may increase you prospects of a future date. If you sense she is gifted and beautiful, tell her, so she will re-affirm it in front of her mirror and her friends.

An unforeseen finger touch and experience may end up in thrash
unless you do it privately.  No woman appreciates a show off, especially if she isn't certain she wants to spend her life with you.
When you share similar interests and outlook you can feel solidarity, yet many couples who share their whole lot in life, including their blood are found plodding on the veranda of divorce courts. Sharing is
moments; what you share one moment may not last long unless you
cultivate an emotional bond that would tie both of you together forever.

Feel jealous on and off when she flirts with other guys at a party or
get together.  Always show your best in front of a woman if you want to gain her trust.  Enjoying her company pays well for the long term and wins her forever.

How can I get her back???

Dear RelationshipGuru,

I am currently pursuing economics(h) from ABC university 2nd yr.. Me and my girlfriend have been together for around 2.5yrs now and our relationship was quite strong.. but during this time i did behave pretty over posessive about her and did restrict her from doing things to quite an extent.. she did try adjusting with it but now she has crossed her limit and just wants to break free.. she keeps on saying that she doesnt wanna continue with this relationship anymore because our thoughts dont match.. she's also started feeling that we are not compatible with each other which is genuinely not true.. i have realized my mistakes and just want a chance to rectify them but however she just keeps saying that she will not enter this relationship again till she falls in love and feels the need for it cause it has hurt her enough.. i really love her a lot and i really dont wanna lose her.. this seriously isnt a mere teenage romance thingy which can just be ovecome.. the emotions that we shared were very beautiful and i miss it a lot..

 

please suggest a way in which i can get her back.. cause even i know that deep down even she loves me...

 

 

 

Dear P,

Your problem is a bit complicated at this stage as she shows tendency to get rid of you as you were over possessive.

First of all, you understand that you love her…but you don't want to marry her right now, instead you want to be with her as her own…together.

At the same time, she may need some freedom to make friends and talk to them up to an extend go out.

You tell her she can go out woth thers in a group…not with someone –one to one.

Just send her a letter explaining that how much you love her…and tell her you never meant to curtail her freedom, instead, you expected her and you together…something anyone like you yearn for.

Yours is a serious love, that will end up in marriage…but, let her know in your letter that you never want to cage her…instead, tell her that  you, being with her feel more happy…

 

Once you post this letter..you don't bother to give her a call for the next six months.

I expect her giving you a call you. Keep all the atmosphere in lull. If possible ,after posting the letter you vanish go home without informing her. Even if she calls her , don't tell her where you are…just don't show up for six months.

I am sure , she will search you.

 

Your own

RelatinshipGuru

  

How can i tame My Child?

Dear RelationshipGuru,

My son is in school, a young enthusiastic toddles he was. Ever since I had a daughter he started to be a bit rebellious and refuses to go to the school. I am worried. How can I tame my child?

Stella (Ano..)

 

Dear Stella,

Your child's issue is very common phenomenon which is reported in different families, especially when mother expecting another baby. This is a general reaction of many children who felt losing the attention of mother, someone he /she was possessive about so far.

Encage your child with other members and relatives who are friendly with him. Still, you can help him giving him the attention he craves for. You can also encourage him to play with his existing friends, out door games and let him participate in other activities that he has talent and interest. This will widen his social horizon; slowly he will mentally adjust with the new circumstances. At present he may be facing a form of vacuum that caused by his mothers' detachment.

Your own,

RelationshipGuru

Every relationship has a peak time

Dear RelationshipGuru,

I am in love with a guy and he likes me so much, we used to go out. But, now, I find some changes in him. He lost that intimacy he used to have. I am worried though never talked to him anything about it.

Please advice.

Katie.

 

Dear Katie,

Every relationship has a peak time and a slow down, when you both became very familiar and understood each other's ifs and buts; there is nothing serious to worry about. However, try to find out more quality time and memorable moments both of you are together. Try to re-invent every moment together as well. Both of you might have at least once in your life attracted to someone else too and that might be the source of your worry. The strength of a relationship and loyalty are tested these moments. Before expecting too much you try to give much more in the form of care, promise, affection and passion. At times, a timely phone call would do wonder.

Your own,

RelationshipGuru.

 

 

How can i come out of this?

Dear RelationshipGuru,

 

I always wanted to have a girl friend. But, whenever I approach a girl my throat is dry and I lose confidence. I don't know how to detect whether a girl likes me or not.

How can I come out of this crisis?

 

Ken.

 

 

Dear Ken,

 

You don't have to run after a girl or buy a drink for her to get a girl or make her interested in you. It is natural that both sexes when they try to talk to a stranger, especially an opposite sex, they lose confidence. Instead of going for a direct approach I would like to give some tips to encourage someone to talk to you.

 

 Always try to have an instant eye contact with the girl you like to pursue. The eye contact should be a brief, not more than 5 seconds. Else, she will consider it as a form of stare which women hate.

Do it regularly whenever you see her. Girls can easily sense if someone looks at them, amazingly they can easily detect the direction too.   First one week she may refuse, as she wants to make sure that you are serious. Later on, her eye contact is certain unless she loves someone else In three months time if she refuses eye contact I would suggest you not to pursue her.

 

Remember to identify if she tries to talk to someone loudly when you are around. Certainly she is trying to invite your attention.

If she comes very close to you when you are in the middle of racks while in the Library or in a Shopping Mall this is a positive sign. Ask how she feels about a particular product-e.g.: Shampoo, Soap… These can initiate a conversation.

 

Don't hang around her while she is shopping –it will give her a negative image of being desperate. Women need time to observe you.

                                                                               

See, while she is driving or sitting in the back seat of a car, instantly looking at you, when she sees you.

Remember to detect, if she steals a moment to give you eye contact, even while she is sitting in the middle of her friends or talking to someone.

 

 

Negative signs are plenty to run away from a girl you try to pursue:                    

 

See, if she takes out her mobile phone and trying to call someone or searching message whenever she sees you from a distance.

                     

Notice if she tries to pull down or adjusts her dress as if she is trying to cover her body. This is a negative sign.

 

Make note that when she looks down suddenly and tries to be hurry when she sees you from a distance.

 

Don't laugh loudy or otherwise when she commits a mistake or something unexpected happens to her.

 

Always remember; try to pursue only someone who show interest in you as much as you do; else the relationship will be imbalanced and troubles can occur any time.

 

Your own

 

RelationshipGuru

 

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What should I Do?

Dear relationship Guru,

I love a girl. We were in relationship for the last one year. In the mean time she got a job and there she has a male friend-. These days she ignored me, even if I give a call she is not responding as passionate as she used to. What should I do?

Jo (Anonymous)

 

Dear Mr. Jo,

"If we can't love men,

Why we are in this world?

Women are in this world to love men."

An emotional Poem in the movie Le-Divorce still I remember. It is true that you were in love with her; most probably she might have loved you too. But, now her horizon has changed, she started getting new friends. The guy, her colleague you were talking about must be having some qualities she likes and you miss. Since, I don't know whether you are a student or working, her attraction towards monetary matters can't be judged at present. Only you know this. If he is handsome, friendly and understanding and they are working in the same office, mutual attraction can happen, but not necessary. If I am not judgmental, it may also be your feeling that she is not talking to you as friendly and passionate; she may be giving more time and priority to her career.

If the concerned colleague of her has better Social, Economic and Carrier prospective and status than you, there is some possibility to consider your doubt. I would say "your doubt" a form of hypothesis until we find out the truth.

Again, in many cases I had attended before, I also observed that women were attracted and even chosen someone as her husband who were better established than her. Because, every woman is concerned about her security (economic, emotional and well being); It is natural that any man doing well in his career will be happier and comparatively less chance to have a separation in the later stage of marriage.

So, what you have to do now is to find better position that would give you a bargaining position in the society. (If you are a student try to get into a good firm or start your own business); the first step to approach her again. Then, write a detail letter to her explaining how much you admire her; and how do you plan your future life with her. This time you are not an empty vessel that brags, but someone has done a manly thing – you are on your own foot. If she responds, then you have reason to pursue this relationship. Else, I mean if  she doesn't show positive response please understand that either she didn't love you as much as you loved her or she care someone else; and you lost your ground.

If the latter is fact; it may be painful, but to save your life and to prove that your love is not a charity for someone who doesn't care you; you will have to find the replacement in your heart; a new girl; yes, a new girl who meets your imagination, admire your love and care and finally meets the benchmark of your relationship you define.

Your own

Relationship Guru.

 

   

I lost all hopes!!!

Dear Relationship Guru,

I met my husband in a party and after 3 years of memorable relationship we had married. Now, after five years of marriage and having a kid; he seems to have lost interest in me. On and off I am blamed for everything I do. I lost all hope in life.

Please advise me.

Mrs.El.

Dear Ms.EL,

“The sheen of love ends in Marriage”. A proverb, I used to hear from my neighborhood. From my understanding with many cases of Relationship that I attended before, I felt it was wrong and in fact you fail to explore the intensity of love in its new dimension of marriage. Every marriage have to be refined with fascination and ardor in day to day life, else, it can turn into a rot bag, eventually ends up in break up and break down.

A holiday trip and a weekend dinner may not be fruitful.

Well, to save your marriage, instead of blaming your husband you try to discover what all things he used to enjoy and passionate before your marriage and is he still pursuing them??

If he doesn’t, your marriage might have come in between something rejoiced him. Explore them, mine them out and encourage him to re-start. Let him find a new meaning in life. When started a married life, his responsibility obviously might have multiplied in progression and “he” in him certainly might have buried under all these. Obviously, it can happen to everyone.

Dig out that fascinating man somewhere you lost.

Certainly, he will find a new meaning in life with you and in your married life.



Your own,

Relationship Guru.